Your wedding should be a personal and meaningful experience for you. Customizing your ceremony to your needs is my priority. Here are some popular optional ceremonies, poems and prayers. If you have something in mind. Let’s work together to make it happen.
Add-on optional ceremonies to personalize your wedding…
Apache Wedding Prayer
Now you will feel no rain for each of you will be shelter to the other. Now you will feel no cold for each of you will be warmth to the other. Now there is no more loneliness. Now you are two bodies, but there is only one life before you. Go now to your dwelling place to enter the days of your togetherness. And may your days be good and long upon the earth.
Butterfly release ceremony According to a Native American Legend If anyone desires a wish to come true they must first capture a butterfly and whisper that wish to it. Since a butterfly can make no sound, the butterfly cannot reveal the wish to anyone but the Great Spirit who hears and sees all. In gratitude for giving the beautiful butterfly its freedom,the Great Spirit always grants the wish. So, according to legend, by making a wish and giving the butterfly its freedom,the wish will be taken to the heavens and be granted. Our wish for you today is to have a long and happy marriage.
Children’s ceremony As part of the family nature of God’s creation we recognize child/children and the significant role him/her/they play in this marriage being celebrated todays Bride/Groom would like to present (ring, necklace, etc.) as a symbol of family unity and in the hope and joy made visible through this marriage. (have groom/ bride repeat after me) Not only do I vow to be a good and faithful husband/wife to you,______, but I also vow to be a patient, loving father/mother/parent to _______, ______, and _______, caring for him/her/them and providing for him/her/them as my own. I vow to be their strength and their emotional support, loving him/her/them with all my heart from this day forward.
Glass Breaking ceremony
In the Jewish faith the breaking of the glass signifies the destruction of the great temple in Jerusalem. Its spiritual significance is our reaffirmation of our faith in God. Our prayer today is that their lives together would be longer than it would take to fit these broken pieces of glass back together again.
Alternate Glass Breaking Ceremony
The breaking of the glass at the end of a wedding ceremony serves to remind of two very important aspects of a marriage. The bride and groom – and everyone – should consider these marriage vows as an IRREVOCABLE ACT – just as permanent and final as the breaking of this glass is unchangeable. But the breaking of the glass also is a warning of the FRAILTY of a marriage. That sometimes a single thoughtless act, breech of trust, or infidelity can damage a marriage in ways that are very difficult to undo – just as it would be so difficult to undo the breaking of this glass. Bride and Groom , knowing that this marriage is permanent, you should strive to show each other the love and respect befitting your spouse and love of your life.” Our prayer today is that their lives together would be longer than it would take to fit these broken pieces of glass back together again.
Hand ceremony (Bride), please face (Groom) and hold his hands, palms up, so that you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes; tears of sorrow and tears of joy. These are the hands that will comfort you in illness and hold you when fear or grief fills you. These are the hands that will give you support and celebrate with you in your accomplishments.(Groom), please hold (Bride) hands, palms up, so that you may see the gift that they are to you. These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times. They are the hands that will comfort you when you are sick or console you when you are grieving. These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the year, for a lifetime of happiness. These are the hands that will give you support as she encourages you to fulfill your dreams. Our prayer for you today is that both of you will use these hands to build a marriage where all your dreams come true.
Irish Wedding Prayer
May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back, May the sun shine warm upon your face, The rains fall upon your fields, And until we meet again, May the Lord hold you in the hollow of his hand.
Rose Ceremony Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings, which shall always be a outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect, and a public showing of your commitment to each other. You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a man and a woman, the title of husband and wife. For your first gift, as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose. In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant one thing, it meant the words I Love You. So it is appropriate that for your first gift as husband and wife, that gift would be a single rose (Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.) In some ways it seems you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose, and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways a marriage ceremony is like this. Tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday, but in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life, one I hope you always remember, the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage. Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.In some ways it seems you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose, and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways a marriage ceremony is like this. Tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday, but in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life, one I hope you always remember, the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.
BRIDE and GROOM you have just sealed your bond by the giving and receiving of rings and this covenant is a marital pledge between two people who agree that they will commit themselves to one another throughout their lives. The most beautiful example of this partnership is the marriage union. Today, this relationship is symbolized through the pouring of these two individual containers of sand. One, representing you, BRIDE and all that you were, all that you are, and all that you will ever be, and the other representing you, GROOM, and all that you were and all that you are, and all that you will ever be. As these two containers of sand are poured into the third container, the individual containers of sand will no longer exist, but will be joined together as one. Just as these grains of sand can never be separated, our prayer for you today is that your lives together would take longer than the time it would take to separate the individual grains of sand.
Unity candle ceremony Bride and Groom, the two lighted candles symbolize your separate lives, your separate families and your separate sets of friends. I ask that you each take one candle and that together you light the center candle. The individual candles represent your individual lives before today. Lighting the center candle represents that your two lives are now joined to one light, and represents the joining of your two families and sets of friends to one. ___ and ___ will now extinguish their own candles, thus letting the center candle symbolize the union of their lives. As one light cannot be divided, neither will their lives be divided.
Alternate Unity Candle Ceremony
In just a moment _____and _____ will light one central candle from the two candles you see burning. This ceremony will symbolize the merging of their lives into one relationship. (During candle lighting I will read) One of mankind’s first and greatest gifts was the power of fire. Fire whose heat could provide warmth, healing, and nourishment. Fire whose brilliance could light the way. Fire whose wrath could destroy enemies. Yet other fires exist for man that share these same benefits. These fires are inner fires passionate fires which drive us toward our destiny. Let the lighting of these candles symbolize that inner flame; the unending faith, love, and devotion that has brought these two here today. And like this flame, may their love burn brightly throughout a lifetime of joy and happiness